Should You Request a Female GP for Perimenopause? What to Know
Thinking about requesting a female GP for perimenopause care? Learn your rights, how to make the request, and what matters most when choosing a doctor.
Is It Reasonable to Request a Female GP?
Yes, absolutely. NHS patients have the right to express a preference for a GP of a particular gender, and surgeries are expected to accommodate this where reasonably possible. Many women feel more comfortable discussing symptoms like vaginal dryness, low libido, or mood changes with a female doctor, and that comfort level can make for a better, more open consultation. You do not need to justify your preference.
How to Make the Request
When booking an appointment, simply ask reception whether there is a female GP available. If your surgery has limited female GPs, you may need to wait a little longer for an appointment. You can also note your preference in writing if you are registering with a new practice. It is worth asking upfront whether any of the female GPs at the practice have a particular interest or qualification in menopause, as this combination is particularly valuable.
Gender vs Expertise: What Matters More
Having a female GP does not automatically mean they have specialist menopause knowledge. Menopause training has historically been limited in UK medical education, and a male GP with a menopause qualification may offer better clinical care than a female GP without one. Ideally, you want both. Ask whether any doctors at your practice hold a qualification from the British Menopause Society or have completed the Menopause Care Certificate. This is often more important than gender alone.
What If Your Surgery Cannot Accommodate Your Request
If your surgery genuinely cannot provide a female GP within a reasonable timeframe, they should explain this to you and offer alternatives. You can ask to be referred to an NHS menopause clinic, or consider an online consultation with a female menopause specialist. Switching GP practices is also an option if you consistently feel your needs are not being met. You are entitled to register at any practice that is accepting patients in your area.
Making the Most of Your Appointment
Regardless of your GP's gender, preparation makes a significant difference. Write down your main symptoms before the appointment, note how long you have been experiencing them, and think about how they are affecting your work, relationships, and wellbeing. Being specific helps your GP understand the full picture and respond with appropriate options. If you feel dismissed or that your concerns are minimised, it is always okay to seek a second opinion.
You Deserve Care That Feels Right
Feeling safe and heard in a medical appointment is not a luxury, it is a basic requirement for good care. If requesting a female GP helps you speak more openly about your symptoms, that is a completely valid reason to make the request. Your comfort in the consultation room directly affects the quality of care you receive, so do not feel embarrassed about asking for what you need.
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